7 Helpful Tips To Immediately Increase Your Confidence
by Kent Sayre
- Ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen?"
Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all
have a certain amount of energy so let's apply it to creating extraordinary
relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals instead
of wasting that energy worrying. Take action on what you have control
over and minimize risks for what you don't. Then invest your energy
wisely.
- In doing something for the first time, imagine that you
have already done it in the past. Close your eyes, then vividly
imagine you succeeding wildly at what you are really going to do for
the first time. The mind does NOT know the difference between something
VIVIDLY imagined and something real. Make it vivid by involving all
5 senses. Find someone who is already confident in that area and imitate
him/her.
- Model as many of their behaviors, attitudes, values, and
beliefs for the context you want to be confident. How can
you do this? Talk with them if you can approach them. If you can't
meet them, get as much exposure to them as you can. This could be
talking to people who know the person and/or buying their products
if they have some.
- Use the "as-if" frame. Ask yourself these
questions: "If you were confident, how would you be acting? How
would you be moving? How would you be speaking? What would you be
thinking? What would you tell yourself inside?" By asking yourself
these questions, you are literally forced to answer them by going
into a confident state. You will then be acting "as-if"
you are confident. Now just forget you are acting long enough and
pretty soon you'll develop it into a habit.
- Go into the future and ask if what you're faced with is
such a big deal. This might be a bit morbid and yet this
works tremendously well. Imagine yourself on your deathbed looking
back over your life. You are surrounded by your friends and family.
You're reviewing your life. Is what you're faced with now even going
to pop up? That's highly unlikely. Keeping things in proper perspective
really diminishes fear.
- Remember that you lose out on 100% of the opportunities
that you never go for. To get what you want, ask for it.
Believe that if I ask enough people for whatever you want, you can
get it. This is not necessarily true and yet it's a useful belief.
As you think about your goals and what you are striving for, think
about how effective it would be for you to believe that all people
want to help you if you only ask. Whether that is true or not in the
"real world" does not matter. If you find that belief empowering,
adopt it as your own.
- Disarm the nagging, negative internal voice. That
negative internal voice can stop you from acting to achieve your goal.
To disarm the internal voice, imagine a volume control and lower the
volume. Or how about changing the internal voice to Mickey Mouse?
Do you think you could take Mickey Mouse seriously if he were criticizing
you? Change the voice to a clown voice. The point is to disarm the
voice by altering the way it nags at you. If you hear your own voice
nagging you, it stops you. If you hear a clown voice, you will laugh
and continue onward.
Source: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Sayre2.html
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